Just Engaged! Seeking a Second Opinion on the Ring 💍✨
Hey everyone!
I’m beyond excited to share that I just got engaged! 🎉 It’s such an exhilarating time, and I can’t wait to start planning our future together. But there’s something that’s been on my mind, and I would love to get your input!
While my fiancé and I absolutely love the engagement ring he chose for me, I can’t help but feel a little torn about it. Don’t get me wrong, it’s stunning! It’s a beautiful round cut diamond set in a delicate gold band, the sparkle is unreal—but I’ve been hearing mixed opinions about the cut and the setting from friends and family.
I know that engagement rings are deeply personal, and what matters most is the love and thought behind the ring, but I’m curious to see what others think. Which is why I’m turning to you all—a community of ring enthusiasts!
Let’s Discuss!
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Share Your Thoughts: What do you think about the round cut diamond? Do you prefer other cuts like princess, oval, or cushion? What are the pros and cons in your opinion?
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The Setting: What type of setting do you feel showcases the diamond best? Halo, solitaire, or maybe even a vintage twist?
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Alternative Options: If you had to choose again, would you pick a different stone or setting? What have your experiences been with different gems like sapphires, emeralds, or moissanite?
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Personal Stories: Do you have an engagement ring that you’re particularly proud of? Share photos and the story behind your choice! It’d be great to see different styles and hear about the emotional connections tied to them.
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Learning Together: For those who aren’t sure about their purchase or future rings, what tips do you have for choosing a ring? Any must-know information about carats, clarity, or color grades?
Show Off Your Engagement Rings!
To kick off the conversation, I’ll be posting photos of my engagement ring below. I’m excited to hear what you all think, and I hope this space can be a supportive and informative hub for anyone navigating the world of engagement rings.
So, let’s chat about all things rings—whether it’s sharing advice, experiences, or simply showing off your bling! 💖💎
Looking forward to seeing your posts!
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i think it’s gorgeous and it looks amazing on her hand! did she happen to give you any advice prior to the engagement about what she wanted?
I wouldn’t take it too personal. I’m sure if she feels comfortable enough to tell you she wants to take it in to make sure it’s perfect, she’d be comfortable enough to tell you if she didn’t actually like it. If she’s a perfectionist, then I’m sure she just wants to make sure it’s built to last.
She has a “family jeweler” and apparently set up a photo shoot just for the ring, so it seems she takes these things very seriously. 😄
Let her get her second opinion. Odds are she won’t nitpick and need a second opinion on every decision you make in your lives together.
It is a gorgeous ring and it looks amazing. She may have a loyalty to the jeweler and since you didn’t get her ring through that person, she may be feeling some sort of way about it, and she may want to confront any potential uncomfortableness head on, and it may have more to do with that than the ring. So, getting this person’s opinion about the ring may feel more respectful than the jeweler finding out through someone else in the family. It could just be strictly about that relationship and nothing to do with the ring.
I can’t imagine her not loving the ring! She probably just wants a peace of mind that it’s set correctly. She also may not completely like gap between the diamond and setting and wants to see if it’s correctly set or if they can set the diamond lower. I saw your post and saw your setting and mine has the same gap and truthfully it bothers me sm lol I wish it was a smidge lower but this doesn’t negate how beautiful the ring is. Congrats to you both. I’m sure she loves it and loves how much you thought about and how much time you put into the ring.
I think you should always talk about a ring before the proposal 🤷♀️ if you didn’t- and it sounds like you didn’t- I say don’t take it personally. It’s nice but not my taste at all.
Why didn’t you use the family jeweler? Just curious.
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The ring is gorgeous.
Maybe she just wants to get it looked at. Maybe she wants a whole redesign.
What matters is she loves you and appreciates you, and you feel the same.
I don’t have a jeweler but it’s never a bad idea to get a ring inspected. Fraud happens, shoddy workmanship happens. If she is still not accepting the ring after her jeweler gives it all clear then you have an answer.
She likes the ring, which is why she’s worried about it. If the stone is off center, it might not be set properly and it could fall out. The primary purpose of a gallery rail (where the hidden halo is set) is to secure the prongs so they don’t snag and pull open, but if the gap is too big, it might be the same concern as above where the stone may not be securely set and could fall out. She doesn’t want to lose it, so she’s taking some precautions.
You said she’s a perfectionist, so maybe she loves the diamond and the design, but it wasn’t executed well. Poor execution can sometimes have a visual impact that bothers some people, but it’s usually a relatively easy fix.
1st it’s lovely. 2nd we have a family jeweler and we super trust him, so it is a thing and I wouldn’t worry that it is more worry about construction.
I would be absolutely dumbfounded to hear that she doesn’t love this ring. It’s stunning and any woman should be proud to own something so beautiful. You did an amazing job, picking the perfect, timeless piece. That being said, I would encourage her to have it checked out by her jeweler of choice. It will give you both peace of mind. Though, I don’t see what she’s concerned about with the halo setting. Looks perfect to me. 😍😍😍
Such a gorgeous ring. Have her get a second opinion, if the crooked stone (I don’t see it at all) bothers her then she can get it reset to her ideal degree of straightness?
Hard to say what she is feeling. Im very picky too and ive had jewelers reset a ring due to poor setting job. From what i can see the ring doesnt look too far from the halo and the prongs look good, flush to the stone. I cant see all angles so i could be missing something being crooked. Setting looks secure too. I am suspicious she may not like something about it and somehow her conversation with the jeweler is going to end up with you needing to buy a new setting or stone. However, everything she is listing as issues can easily be fixed while keeping the same setting. I guess youll have to wait and see
Ohhh my goshhh it’s so stunning!! I’m also a perfectionist and this sounds like something I’d do, not because I don’t love the ring but if I were to question spacing or settings of the ring yeah I’d want to run it by a family friend jeweler cause it couldn’t hurt and it’s a trusted expert opinion. If anything they could make any necessary adjustments and then the ring is just even more perfect! Great job on the choice!!
It looks amazing from the top! We can’t see how secure the setting is but it should probably have a cathedral setting with the size of it. Congrats on the engagement 🙂
We cannot give you opinions on the concerns because the pics you provided are not close up and face on and full profile.
Seems like a great ring.
You’re VERY MUCH overthinking this. She just wants a person she trusts, who has fine jewelry knowledge and expertise, to look at it and tell her if it is structurally sound or not. Especially if she’s seeing flaws 🤷🏼♀️
I take every piece I ever buy from anywhere to my Jeweler for the same reasons “Is this okay, is it well made, I noticed this what can we do to fix it/I noticed this, oh that’s perfectly fine and we don’t need to fix it? Okay cool” type ish.
It’s beautiful and she loves it, she just doesn’t want it to break in 6 months over something that could have been easily sorted out had she taken it in for inspection.
You did a good job, Fiancè 🥰
It seems like she’s just trying to scratch the itch of getting involved because she did want it to be a surprise but now she’s anxious after the fact. I wouldn’t worry about it. She probably loves it
Doesn’t matter why. Just let the jeweler look at the ring — isn’t the real goal for her to love the ring forever?
It’s personally not my taste, I don’t love the high set oval and skinny band on a stone of size due to integrity and longevity. This sounds like where she’s going with craft and structure. She could not like it and be beating around the bush, but that is less likely. I do think for shopping on your own you did well.
Have to take screenshots because wow! If I ever decide that I want to get married for the second time this is exactly the ring I’ll want, everything about it is just perfect
how can we tell if if the diamond is crooked or if the gap is too big with these pictures??
It’s always a good idea to get these things checked. My stone was sitting a little wonky and when I took it to a jeweler it turned out the setting did not fit the stone so I was glad I got it checked out.
Go with her to the jeweler’s.
OP stunning E-ring you’ve chosen & yr fiancée is undoubtedly over the moon but when her family has a “family jeweller”, I understand why yr fiancée wants “peace of mind”. I had a friend who was a GIA (Aust. Certified jeweller) who always checked out my ring/jewellery bought elsewhere for peace of mind. Nothing wrong with giving “her peace of mind’, please don’t be anxious, she loves you & the fabulous oval E-ring you proposed with. Congratulations to both of you & blessings for the future. Best wishes fr Aust. 🙃 🦘🐨🇦🇺💐
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Ask her
I’m sure she loves the ring but this situation seems like she knows a jeweler that she trusts and would want them to look at the ring to make sure you got a good deal on it and it is actually worth what you paid. It’s like buying a used car and her uncle is a mechanic, I’m sure she trusts her mechanic uncle to look at the car and make sure you didn’t get scammed with a faulty engine or something.
Person with OCD here (which is ironically sometimes mischaracterized as perfectionism) 🙋🏽♀️ I am absolutely in LOVE with my ring. My fiancé had it made by a company I am not personally familiar with, which is totally fine. I have no reason to doubt the quality of their work based on reviews, and to me the ring is absolutely perfect. One of the *first things* I did was have it checked by a jeweler I trust. It wasn’t because I doubted the quality or disliked the ring. It was just for peace of mind because it was (still is) *nerve racking* having this rock on my hand that I wasn’t used to, and now happened to be the most precious thing I own. I’m constantly worried about losing a stone simply because I care about this ring so much. I still welcome other jewelers to clean and check it for peace of mind if the opportunity presents itself, and I’ve been engaged for about a year. I bet she likes that ring …a lot 🙂
Wow stunning ring and pictures, congrats 😍
Hey – 27f here to say I read your comments on how much work you put into making this a custom piece and the heart you put into it. The ring is gorgeous and she’s lucky to have you!
Good luck 😂😂😂
Neither of these photos show us the “problem” so idk.
Maybe she just wants to show respect to the family jeweler by asking for his opinion — that might help avoid any awkwardness that might happen if she were to simply waltz into his store with an important ring he knows nothing about.
These pictures aren’t close enough to rule out the issues she said she is concerned about. It sounds like she has expressed liking the design (the part you contributed to) and needs an expert she trusts to check the craftsmanship. I think this is a pretty reasonable ask from her, and in no way implies anything negative about you and the choices you made with the ring’s appearance.