Engaged but Disappointed: Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Engagement Rings 💍
Hello, beautiful community! 🌟
Today, I wanted to share a rather bittersweet experience with you all—I’m engaged, which is a dream come true, but I can’t shake off this feeling of disappointment regarding my engagement ring. As a space dedicated to celebrating the beauty of engagement rings, I hope that sharing my thoughts can spark a rich discussion about the highs and lows of this journey.
The Sparkle That Lost Its Shine
Let’s start with the good: I said yes to my partner, and we’re headed down the aisle! However, when it came to the ring, what was supposed to be a moment of sheer happiness turned into a mix of excitement and regret. The ring is beautiful, of course, but it just didn’t feel “me.” 🤷♀️
What Happened?
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Expectation vs. Reality: Like many of you, I’ve dreamt about what my engagement ring would look like since childhood. I envisioned an intricate design, maybe with a unique stone or a vintage touch. However, when it came time for the big reveal, it turned out to be a more traditional diamond solitaire.
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Feeling Overlooked: I love my partner dearly, but I can’t help but feel they didn’t fully understand my style. Communication about preferences can be tricky when it comes to something as symbolic as an engagement ring. I wish I had been more vocal about what I truly wanted.
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Social Pressure: The pressure to flaunt a “perfect” engagement ring often weighs heavy. We’ve all seen those stunning rings on social media, and at times, it feels like we’re competing against those expectations rather than celebrating our unique love stories.
Let’s Talk About It!
Now that I’ve shared my experience, I’d love to open up the floor for discussion! Here are a few prompts to get us started:
- What’s Your Ring Story? Have you ever felt disappointed with your engagement ring? If so, how did you handle it?
- Preference vs. Surprise: Did your partner nail it with the design, or did you find yourself wishing for something else? How can couples navigate this delicate conversation?
- Unique Finds: If you’re currently ring shopping, what styles, gems, or settings are speaking to you? Share your ideas to help others who may feel overwhelmed by choices!
- Ring Modifications: Have you made any changes to your engagement ring after the proposal? Please share your experiences with customizations!
Sharing is Caring!
I would love for this to be a safe space where we can all open up about our experiences—whether they’re filled with joy or tinged with disappointment. ❤️ Feel free to post your rings and share the stories behind them! Have you achieved that perfect balance between personal style and what’s been gifted to you?
Let’s learn from one another and continue to celebrate this beautiful journey of love and commitment, no matter the unexpected twists it takes. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts and see your sparkling treasures!
EngagedButDisappointed #RingStories #EngagementRings #LoveAndStyle
“worth” aside, it’s an issue that he’s probably lying.
A 2ct natural diamond would likely come with some sort of certificate – ask for it for insurance purposes. Or the receipt.
Outright lying about a ring is a really weird way to start the rest of your lives.
I think it’s not about the fact it’s fake; but that he lied
The real issue is, love aside, do you *really* want to tie the rest of your life to someone who is *already* lying straight to your face about finances?
Is it possible that he’s just an idiot and got scammed?
Could you clarify what you mean when you say he “made it seem like”? Like, did you guys have a conversation about all of this and he told you he had custom designed and ordered a white gold ring with a 2ct diamond? Or that’s what you told him you’d like and he kind of said he’d see what he could do? Or somewhere in the middle?
It’s a pretty ring. It’s not 2ct and evidently not in gold, so like others have established likely not a diamond. But I’m confused why he’d think he could outright lie about something so easily proven wrong. Is it like him to lie?
Those are probably CZs and not even moissanites.
This ring looks like play jewelry 😭😭 I’d be so upset about the lying
Get it appraised before you say anything 🙂
I’m sorry OP……a man that lies to you does not respect you. If he could afford a regular ring why is he being cheap with a ring that you would wear for life? My friend’s ex proposed with a cheap ring to test her. Needless to say they never got married.
Well I was going with “give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he got scammed” option until your response about finding the ring on Amazon and adding that it was delivered by Amazon.
Since you know the truth, anything other than being direct with him is simply manipulation on your part — and your manipulation and his deceit are not good foundations for a relationship that’s supposed to last a lifetime.
It will be an incredibly difficult conversation, but I think you need to sit down with him and say, “Tell me again about the ring.” If he sticks with his story, it’s time to say “Sweetie, it’s stamped for sterling silver, and sterling silver is not used to set diamonds.” If he doesn’t come clean, “Amazon delivered it. Here it is on Amazon (show him a screenshot). What’s going on?”
Good luck. UpdateMe.
There was a stupid “litmus” test men were doing like 10 years ago where they would get a cheaper ring to propose with and if the woman expressed disappointment it somehow was “proof” to the man that she was really only about the money. I wonder if some men still feel this type of behavior is a good idea.
i agree with top comment to point out the S925 hallmark. although this situation is super upsetting, it might end up being a good test on whether you guys can handle hard conversations : )
p.s you are 10000000x worth it and worth more
I mean… is he lying, or was he scammed? Best to have a chat with him first.
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Weird energy to start off forever with. Why lie?
Confronting him is fine if you need closure or whatever, but if he lied about the ring, he’ll lie when you confront him. Even if he’s honest about it, would it matter? He’s not someone you should be with if he’s so brazenly lying about an easily verifiable $80 ring, telling you it’s a $30k ring. The price doesn’t matter. I’m so sorry you had to find out he’s a scumbag like this.
Get it appraised for “insurance purposes”, you’ll get hard proof. Then you can address why he is lying about the ring
A conversation needs to be had. You need to tell him how you feel.
Not only does he not respect you enough to be honest, he must think you’re stupid. This ring is very obviously not a high quality ring just by looks. I’m so sorry OP please protect yourself.
Just go talk to him. If he lied and you cannot discuss this then I am pretty concerned about your marriage. This should not be an issue and you will have many issues when you are married (like everyone else).
Mention to him that you are going to have it appraised for insurance purposes. See his reaction.
Don’t marry someone that’s lying to you about finances before you’re even married to him.
You should be able to ask him. The fact that he lied about it is the real issue. How long have you been dating? He may be embellishing a lot of other details as well.
A natural 2ct ring is over 30k so tell him you’re getting insurance on it right away and take it for an insurance appraisal. Could be a good way to bring it up.
Definitely ask him for the appraisal so you can get it insured. His reaction will tell you everything.
You can point out the S925 hallmark and say you’re worried he got scammed bc if he didn’t get the white gold he paid for then he should be confronting the jeweller/store right?
You could always say “hey I need to take this to have it appraised for insurance”, and they’ll do a diamond test at any jeweler.
I would go get an appraisal for insurance and wait for the jeweler to say it’s moissanite and then confront him. I agree with the other person who says it is the lying that is the issue not the ring.
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Let’s take a step back. Do you know for certain that it’s moissanite?