I Don’t Love the Ring My Jeweller Made: A Community Discussion on Engagement Rings
Hey everyone!
I wanted to open up a conversation about a topic that might be a bit uncomfortable but is so important: the engagement ring. After much anticipation and excitement, I finally received the ring my jeweller designed for me, and… well, it’s not quite what I envisioned. Has anyone else felt this way about their engagement ring?
Let’s Share Our Experiences!
Maybe you’ve had a similar experience, or perhaps you had a different relationship with your ring. Did you also find yourself at a crossroads with your engagement ring? Or did it exceed all your expectations? I’d love to hear about your journeys, whether they ended in joy or lessons learned!
The Design Dilemma
When I first started looking for an engagement ring, I had a vision in mind—classic but unique, with a setting that tells our story. When I entrusted my jeweller with the design, I thought I was in good hands. But once I got the ring, it didn’t quite match my expectations.
How do we handle the emotional weight that comes with a piece of jewelry that symbolizes so much? Have any of you faced this? Did you choose to make changes, or did you embrace it as a reminder of the love and commitment it represents?
Learning from Our Rings
This community is a wonderful place for others to learn about gems, cuts, and settings! If you’ve been looking into different styles, what have you found most appealing? Share your thoughts on various cuts—do you prefer the brilliance of a round diamond, or the vintage charm of an emerald cut? Let’s discuss the settings too! What styles do you all appreciate?
Show Off Your Engagement Rings!
Despite my mixed feelings, I still love the idea of showcasing the ring here. Let’s see your beautiful engagement rings! Post pictures if you feel comfortable sharing. What was the inspiration behind your design? What unique touches did you or your jeweller add?
Future Purchases and Upgrades
For those still on the hunt for the perfect ring, what features have you prioritized? And if you’ve ever had to upgrade or change your ring, what was the experience like? Let’s have an honest discussion about finding that perfect symbol of love.
In Conclusion
As we share our experiences, let’s remember that every ring holds a different significance and story. Whether you love your ring or are navigating some uncertainty, it’s all part of the journey.
So, what’s your engagement ring story? Let’s spark a discussion, celebrate our beautifully unique stories, and create a comforting space where we can all learn and grow together!
Looking forward to hearing from you all! 💍✨
As a former jeweler and gemologist, I see a few things here. She obviously found a ready-made setting or fully complete ring. You’re right, the prongs on the pictures you liked are light and while the setting (I hesitate to call them prongs) are more protective of the stone, it’s a different look and sometimes settings are used to hide issues with the stone: problems with the make, or cut, unbalanced make, flaws or inclusions that should affect the price can be hidden in a setting- I’m not saying that happened here but you were told you could look at loose stones. No deposit or agreement makes it easy, and weird. No jeweler I’ve met would make or buy anything without a buyer. So she probably found it at another shop or her wholesaler and has it on memo for you (it’s just on trial to show a customer). You deserve the ring you want and it won’t be hard to get it. It looks like the band with the baguettes (tiny stones) looks like rose gold. Have the jeweler show you different colors of gold and platinum.
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It is beautiful
I think the jeweller really liked your design reference, and wanted to make one to practice to see if they could add it to their collection, and how much interest they would get on social media. Don’t be compelled to go with them, and don’t let them pressure you. It’s an important ring and you need to feel 100% with it ♥️
You don’t owe them
I’m not a fan of those v prongs myself. I have a marquise and chose claw prongs and love the way those look. I would not feel obligated to buy that ring since you did not put down a deposit or agreed to anything.
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Sounds like a desperate business trying to push some prefabbed design on you as if it’s custom. I’d look elsewhere. That ring was not created specifically for you.
Also the design is NOTHING like your beautiful inspo pic.
Is it leaning to the right? While it’s nice, I don’t like the top claws at all. I wouldn’t go ahead with it until it was fixed.
The design looks heavy and not like what you send as inspo. If you didn’t pay anything, I don’t see why you can’t let them know you won’t be moving forward
I understand why you don’t love the new ring. The setting isn’t as pretty as the one you chose(I think it looks upside down on your finger but maybe they wear it different across the pond.) The one they made for you would certainly be a lot more practical though. You would certainly have less risk losing your diamond or chipping the narrow corners. That doesn’t mean you have to settle for it but that is something to consider. I agree with everyone that you are not obligated to buy the ring they made for you.
You haven’t payed yet, you don’t owe her anything. You could nicely say the prong style wasn’t what you wanted and either ask her to fix it or just don’t purchase it
tell the jeweler the same thing you wrote in your post. You are jumping the gun if you are not going to propose until next spring/summer. The claws? are you refering to the prongs on the side or the prongs on each end. Both are standard to protect the stone. Be honest you are not obligated to buy the ring if you did not sign a contract. The ring is beautiful.
I wouldn’t accept it. You didn’t agree to anything, sign anything, or pay anything. I would just call them and tell them you don’t like it and you never made an arrangement with them to make anything, therefore, you don’t want it.
This is a very unprofessional business tactic of having something quickly at hand that is close enough, but not exact. I would not contact this jeweler anymore and would move on to a new business if you have given them nothing and no contract. This is not worth ignoring the distrust that they have already created with you!
If you haven’t put any money down at this jeweler- you have zero obligation to buy THAT ring.
I would kindly just tell them you never proceeded with the project and were still shopping several jewelers. They took it upon themselves to make a ring without your input through the process and now that ring looks different from your inspiration pictures.
Politely inform them that being excluded from the process and making the ring before you had committed to anything has made you hesitant about doing business with them.
I almost think they maybe have you mixed up with another customer? This doesn’t seem anything like what you wanted
I like number 2 the best with the 4 small diamonds on the both sides.
This sounds like a salesperson who got ambitious trying to make a sale happen that wasn’t necessarily going to happen and is now trying to pressure you into buying something you do not want.
If you did not make any deposits or sign anything approving any design or provide any communication agreeing to move forward with any designs, I would ask to speak with the manager and explain that you did not authorize the production of this ring, and that you do not want it.
This is a classic tactic aggressive sales people will take to push people into sales who are too nice to just say they didn’t get exactly what you want. They will try to explain the ring you want isn’t exactly possible which is why they’ve had it made the way they did. This is not true. I would bet money this person is working on commission and is trying to rush the sale.
Hopefully you can get things sorted out and get the ring you’re hoping for!!
Oh my word that photo with the white background is NOT anything like the other two photos you had given to them! That is really upsetting. I hope you get advice here on how to move forward. Good luck. If you haven’t paid yet you’re one step ahead at least.
The whole scenario is too weird. I would just not respond and go somewhere else instead.
The inspirational photos are better then the created ring. I would ask for her to redesign to better adhere to your request. And be honest with her… other jewelers can do this, and will especially if she is not understanding I would go elsewhere unfortunately. You can also always buy the diamond separately
The fact they did V prongs and shitty claws is Wild. I have set this ring a few times
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This is like entrapment… and it’s poorly done. Just walk way
Go to Cadette jewelry who actually made that design!
Seems sketchy and you’re under no obligation to buy it
Everything is changeable – a good jeweller with no agreed paper trail will change those claws.
I can see why it’s been done that way to protect the diamond ( as hard as a diamond is you can cleave or chip it easily) but it’s not what you asked for.
Re design the claws.
it looks poorly made, the prongs are not in proportion to the diamond and setting, it doesn’t look like the pictures you sent. if the jeweler was worried about the stone falling out, they could’ve just done 6 claw prongs instead. i’m sorry but it looks awful. you are not obligated to purchase that ring and if they reach out to you again i would say you never agreed to purchasing a ring and you were just inquiring about the loose diamonds!!
the prongs are so different and the inspo pic is not perfectly symmetric, not sure if you’re going for that look, but the ring the actual jeweler made does not follow that design.
Ew those prongs on the top and bottom are huge and such a distraction
I don’t like it, either. That bar on the top/bottom detract from the diamond.
Say exactly this to them: “our last conversation ended with her saying she would source a few more diamonds for me to compare. I never confirmed that I wanted to move forward, paid a deposit, agreed on a design, signed a contract, or even selected a diamond.” And then say you will not be working with them.
I’d go to a new jeweler.. I wouldn’t have any faith that this jeweler would listen since they obviously didn’t listen before.
Was there a design photo sent to you for approval. If not then don’t pay for the ring if you’re not happy. The ring looks nothing like your inspiration photo.
It’s gorgeous, but lopsided. if you didn’t do a deposit or agree on a design then you don’t have to take it?