Is the Bow Tie Bad? Let’s Discuss!
When it comes to engagement rings, the focus tends to be on cuts, settings, gemstones, and shimmering brilliance. But today, let’s shake things up a bit in the world of jewelry discussions: is the bow tie effect inherently bad?
Before you roll your eyes and think, “Not this conversation again,” let’s take a moment to dive deeper into what the bow tie effect really means for all of us engaged in buying or admiring these stunning pieces.
What is the Bow Tie Effect?
For those unfamiliar, the bow tie effect refers to the shadowy area sometimes observed in certain diamond cuts, particularly in fancy shapes like ovals, pears, and marquises. When light passes through the stone, the reflected rays can result in a darkened area in the shape of a bow tie. This phenomenon doesn’t necessarily render a diamond “bad,” but it does raise the question: does it impact the overall aesthetic of the ring?
Pros of the Bow Tie Effect
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Unique Character: Some argue that the bow tie effect gives the diamond a unique character, enhancing its individuality. After all, personal style and preference play a huge role in choosing the perfect ring. Not everyone wants a cookie-cutter diamond!
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Price: Diamonds that exhibit the bow tie effect can be less expensive than stones with a perfect light return. For budget-conscious buyers, this can be a hidden gem (pun intended)!
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Artistic Flair: In certain settings, the bow tie can even contribute to an artistic or vintage vibe. This can work beautifully for some couples looking for something distinctive.
Cons of the Bow Tie Effect
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Light Performance: The most prominent argument against the bow tie effect is its potential to hinder the light performance of the diamond. For many, especially those who prioritize sparkle and brilliance, a bow tie can signify a flaw that dampens the stone’s overall appeal.
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Personal Preference: Some may find the bow tie distracting or unappealing. Beauty is genuinely in the eye of the beholder, and personal taste is paramount when selecting a ring.
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Resale Value: If you’re considering resale in the future, the bow tie effect can complicate matters. Diamonds lacking this phenomenon might appeal to a broader market.
Let’s Hear from You!
Here in our engagement ring community, we’re all about open discussions and sharing insights. So, what’s the verdict?
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Bow Tie Lovers: Do you own a diamond that showcases the bow tie effect? If so, how does it make you feel? Do you enjoy the uniqueness it offers?
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Bow Tie Skeptics: For those who steer clear of gems with the bow tie effect, what factors guide your decision? Is it all about brilliance for you, or do aesthetics sway your choice too?
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Future Buyers: If you’re in the market for engagement rings, what’s your stance? Are you willing to embrace the bow tie effect if the price is right, or does it turn you off completely?
Join in the conversation below! Remember, this space is all about encouraging knowledge and sharing experiences. We can learn so much from each other’s perspectives, whether you’re showcasing a magnificent engagement ring with a bow tie or one that shines without it. Let’s get talking! 💍✨



Honestly, this would bother the hell out of me. It looks really inconsistently cut, theres something off about it.
The diamonds on the side are fine, saying they look like a penis is a stretch.
You gotta take a photo looking straight down from the top with good lighting. That’s how diamonds are graded.
So in the last photo I do see the phallic reference but it’s not there for me when you just look at the ring, it’s actually really pretty. The cut of the diamond I think is what’s throwing you off. That bow tie for me personally is a bit much.
The setting doesn’t look phallic to me but I personally would be disappointed with this center stone. But I went with a round because, among other reasons, I wouldn’t have to deal with a bow tie at all.
Yes.
Also on the grey scale maybe?
The stone may need to be changed based on your concerns but the side stones didn’t seem phallic until I read your caption. No one will be staring at it like you will be so I wouldn’t worry about that. Now if you can’t stand it, then change it!
I would LOVE the hell out of a ring if it had a secret penis. Lmao. That being said, this looks like a lovey ring. I wouldn’t have thought anything phallic! The stones and setting are lovely imo.
If the ring or stone is still within the return window, I would go with another stone. Otherwise, it’s a beautiful ring. Good luck.
I did not see the phalic stones until you mentioned it but if it’s not you then you should get what you want….
I’m a mature lady, the ring is stunning & very nice of yr fiancé to propose with a ring. Until I read others comments about a phalic symbol. I personally couldn’t see it till I did a triple take (no I’m not blind) LOL. However if the ring isn’t making yr “heart sing” perhaps some gentle persuasion on a slight redesign without hurting yr S/O’s feelings. Congratulations on yr engagement. Best wishes from Australia 🦘🐨🇦🇺💐
Honestly I had to look for it once you mentioned it and I am still having trouble. From what I understand, diamonds reflect white light and moissanites tend to reflect the rainbows?-I could be wrong about that.
For me it’s not the bow tie but the weird spot at the bottom of the stone. Is that just a massive inclusion?
I think the setting is pretty
Well now I can’t un-see it.
It’s cute
I think this is a gorgeous ring and we are getting very picky these days in this sub.
It doesn’t look like any phallus I’ve ever seen
That doesn’t look like a small diamond, it should’ve come with a GIA certificate, which would tell you the quality of the diamond the color of the diamond and the flaws. And then you would know what you have. You should have those papers because you’re wearing that diamond and it may need to be insured and you have to produce that.
That being said I think we need better pictures under better lighting. Because there’s black spots I see that I don’t think are there because they aren’t consistent.
I love it!
i wouldn’t worry – the “white circle” effect just means it’s reflecting a specific light source, not that there’s anything wrong. It’s a stunning stone.
This is my dream ring! My partner and I each have 3 children… I personally love it!!
I would wear this ring in a heartbeat. I think it’s beautiful.❤️❤️❤️
I think this is a really lovely ring!
It’s beautiful
I have always thought that setting (which is super popular!!) looked a little like a peener lol!! it’s 100% still beautiful, but I always think of that when I see that setting unfortunately. it’s a really beautiful ring, but if it’s not something you’re excited to wear forever, I recommend seeing what other options you have. 🩷 congrats on the engagement!!
Nadia setting from brilliant earth? I think it’s a very beautiful ring
The white circle is probs just the light hitting the table. Bowties are a feature not a flaw if the bowtie is not apparently dark from all angles then it’s fine
i think it’s a pretty ring. but no matter what everyone tells you, it’s pretty clear you don’t love the ring either. if you aren’t happy, communicate with your fiancé your concerns about it. try to convince him to take you back to a jeweler to pick something new out, and you can pick out what setting and stone you love.
Side note, not that it matters, i noticed your comment said he “ordered one” and the box looks familiar, did he purchase your ring from Brilliant Earth by any chance?
I think it’s gorgeous! Bow tie & penis minimal
I absolutely love your ring; it’s so beautiful and original! A lot of thought and love went into picking this ring. Many congratulations!!
I am lost with what we are looking at that is bad
This ring is fabulous I would about faint if it were proposed with to me!
Huh? That ring is to die for.
It’s beautiful!
There’s nothing bad about this ring !!!
If you don’t like it then ask to return it and get the one you actually want. You don’t want to resent him every time you look at it.