What Do You Do When Your Ex Sends Back the Engagement Ring? Let’s Talk About It! 💍✨
Hey ring lovers! 🌟 I recently found myself in a rather unexpected situation – my ex sent me back my engagement ring. While it sparked a wave of nostalgia, it got me thinking: what should I actually do with it? Should I keep it, sell it, or repurpose it into something new and exciting? Let’s dive into this discussion!
Reflecting on the Past
Finding yourself in a position where an engagement ring is returned can be both emotional and confusing. Many of us have cherished memories associated with our rings. For some, this ring symbolizes love and commitment, while for others, it might represent a chapter that’s officially closed.
Questions to Consider:
- Are you still emotionally attached to the ring?
- What memories does it evoke for you?
- Would keeping it bring back good feelings, or is it more of a painful reminder?
What Are Your Options?
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Keep the Ring:
- Some people choose to keep the ring as a piece of jewelry, a symbol of their past. If you have a strong emotional attachment or believe it could be a conversation starter down the line, keeping it might be viable.
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Sell It:
- If you opt not to keep the memories, selling the ring can be a refreshing way to move on. Plus, you could use the money towards something that brings you joy—like a vacation or a new gem for your collection. 🕶️✈️
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Repurpose It:
- Get creative! Transform the ring into a new piece that reflects your current style or represents your journey. Perhaps change the setting or turn it into a necklace. This can be incredibly liberating and signify a new beginning!
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Give It Away:
- Another option is to gift it to someone who would cherish it, like a family member or friend. This way, the ring continues to hold value and significance without dragging up your past.
Join the Conversation!
What do you all think? Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Share your thoughts and experiences below!
And for those who want to show off their engagement rings (past or present), now’s your chance! 💖 Post your favorite rings, and tell us the story behind them—because every ring has a tale to tell!
Let’s celebrate the beauty of gemstones, cuts, and settings while navigating the complexities of love, loss, and new beginnings! 🌈✨
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences! 💌
Just wear the beauty as a right hand ring and only look at it as a piece of jewelry and as a piece of your past. People come into your life for one of two reasons. For love or for lessons. Look at the ring & think of the lesson you learned & look at it as being a beautiful piece of jewelry that made you stronger! 🌹
Sell it?
Personally, I would sell it. Depending on what you believe or leaning towards, in most cultures, it’s the recipient of the ring that has it in the case of splitting and does what they please with it.
Turn that breakup ring into a glow-up fund sell through a jeweler or online consignment, not a pawn shop.
Take the stone out reset it in an east-west setting. Now it can be a ring you’d want to wear again
Can you take the center stone and turn it into a pendant for a necklace?
Another option could be to save it for the future, you could always have the stone reset/melt the band into something new!
Very beautiful
Yes, hang on to it and don’t rush a decision if you don’t need to. Another thought, if you have no superstitious or karmic feelings about it and can look on it as part of your life’s journey you may someday have a daughter (or daughter in law, like I did!) or a special person that has a March birth stone and this would make a special gift years from now – everything becomes vintage eventually!
keep
lol what size? 😍 I do think tucking it away for a while might be a good choice. A few months or even years down the road you might be unattached enough to reset the stone into something else, or pass it on to someone you care about. Otherwise, selling it privately is probably best as actual jewelry dealers will give you likely very little for it
It really is a beautiful ring. My compliments to you on your great taste in jewelry. 🫶🏻
The people who are saying “send it back” are missing the point – sending it back would be a further engagement with him, which is probably what he wants.
You return it to him.
As you broke up before it arrived it’s his property and he could take you to court over it.
Find a custom jewelry who will trade it for something just for you.
I don’t know how to edit my post (I swear there is no “Edit Post” option under the … tab)
SO. I will hold onto this for a while, probably at least a month or two, and then decide if I’ll sell it. For those curious:
It’s 9.5 US size
[Aquamarine OG Link](https://www.johndyergems.com/gemstones/aquamarine-11753.html)
[Setting style OG link](https://lavendercreekgems.com/products/the-weaver-ring-2-6-ct-emerald-cut-green-tourmaline?_pos=18&_sid=0db9ccd05&_ss=r)
Sorry if I don’t get to everyone’s DMs!! Thanks for all the advice and input, it’s definitely overwhelming to have this suddenly arrive, and on the first day of my period no less lol.
Give him the ring back, he sent it to you in hopes of getting you back. If you keep it or sell it he will no doubt weasel his way back in and either demand the ring back or demand money for the ring. Don’t keep it
I would return it to him. Whatever you buy with the money you make from selling it would be a reminder of the relationship.
I pawned my old wedding band for a sick ass pinky ring
Don’t sell it right away; it’s still too fresh to make any rash decisions. Put it away in the drawer and forget about it. Later on, when it’s not as painful, you can decide what you want to do with it with a clear head. I do know if you decide to sell, don’t do it through pawnshops and jewelers; you will not get anything from it; you should just keep it if you’re going to do that. Sell it outright to make the most out of it. It’s really beautiful; I hope you decide to keep it.
The cut of the stone is unique enough that I think you’ll get some serious offers on the BST subs!
How much would you want for it?
You will receive very little from a pawn shop or most jewelry stores. They often will offer just a little over the gold melt value. I’d say there’s no reason to throw away the cash you could get for it. It could be hidden away in a jewelry box to be sold when you have the energy for it. (Out of sight, out of mind.) Personally, I wouldn’t want to have it made into a pendant. It’s a beautiful stone, but I’d always be reminded of him. If you just want it out of your house, there are sites that just sell engagement rings. Or you can list on eBay … wont get back anything like what he paid, but much more than from a jewelry or pawn store.
Post the ring size. You might get some offers here 🙂
Send it back.
I’m team keep it. It is gorgeous and in a few years it is going to have a different meaning to you.
I still have mine and I love it just as much today as the day I picked it out. I don’t see “what could have been” when I look at it. I see my strength and resilience for standing up for myself and leaving a toxic relationship.
Price?
Right hand ring? If it’s not too painful to remember
I would pawn it, it’s a beautiful ring and can be part of someone else’s love story. Sorry for what you’re going through
I’d sell online like eBay. The gem cutter is good someone will absolutely want it. I do 🙈 would make a nice cocktail ring 😍
Send it to your ex with the receipt. Let him worry about it, clean break.
girl sell it and buy something cute
Send it to me lol.
In the interest of a complete separation from him/not wanting him to use this as a way back, I would give it back and refuse any further deliveries that you’re not expecting.
I’ll take it off your hands 🥰😍
All joking aside, this is a lovely ring and I think it would be cool to keep the stone and put it in a pendant. It may also be something to “squirrel away” for hard times to sell since you aren’t attached to it.
Have it set into a pendant.
You can walk into any small local jewelry store that buys & sells gold. However you will get very little. When I did that, I got $80 for an 18k band with natural diamonds 💀
I do think selling it is the route to go tho! But quick sell for very little will prevent it from draining more of your feelings and energy
Give it back
I think you just give it back you don’t want that energy to follow you around and selling it of won’t get you much if it’s lab grown
There’s r/LabDiamondGemstoneBST