This Ring Just Feels Wrong. Why?
Hey everyone!
I recently came across a beautiful engagement ring that caught my eye, but something about it just didn’t sit right with me. It made me think—how often do we see rings that, despite their aesthetic appeal, just feel off for one reason or another? I’m sure I’m not alone in this sentiment.
The Ring Dilemma
Let’s take a closer look at why a ring might feel “wrong.” Is it the design? The fit? Perhaps it’s the symbolism behind a ring that doesn’t resonate with you? Engagement rings are such deeply personal items, and their significance can change drastically from person to person.
Possible Reasons for That “Wrong” Feeling:
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Style Compatibility: Maybe the ring deviates from your style. You might prefer simple solitaires but are looking at an over-the-top halo design. The contrast can be jarring!
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Fit and Comfort: A ring might look stunning, yet if it pinches your fingers or feels heavy, it can create a sense of discomfort both physically and emotionally.
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Symbolic Misalignment: Some rings are often associated with specific ideas or concepts—like the traditional diamond versus more modern alternatives like sapphires or moissanite. If the symbolism feels out of sync with your values or beliefs, it can leave you feeling unsettled.
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Peer Influence: Perhaps it’s a trendy design, but you feel pressured by societal expectations or what others in your circle of friends are choosing. That disconnect can be unsettling.
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Gemstone Choices: The type of gemstone can also play a significant role. A diamond might traditionally be favored, but for many, alternative stones like emeralds or rubies can feel more personal and reflective of their individuality.
Let’s Share Our Thoughts!
In this community, we’re all here to discuss, learn, and share our experiences with engagement rings. I encourage everyone to post photos of your rings—whether they evoke the “right” feelings or, like mine, raise questions!
- What are your thoughts on ring styles that didn’t resonate with you?
- Have you ever experienced buyer’s remorse or that gut feeling when looking at rings?
- Are there any particular settings or stones you feel convey more emotion or connection?
It’s always fascinating to see how much weight the details carry—not only in terms of design but also their emotional impact. Let’s dive into this spirited discussion about our experiences, preferences, and the stories behind our engagement rings.
I can’t wait to hear from you! 🥰💍✨
other than it being crooked, it’s because it just uses the same design that every ring uses right now. it’s not unique in the slightest
I’m a GG, appraiser and jeweller for 15 years.
A few things that I notice, most importantly being this mounting has no structural integrity for a stone that size, the result being repeated loosening of the diamond or the diamond actually falling out, or a warped mounting from a simple knock against something.
First, with stone that size, for proper and long lasting structural integrity, you definitely need supporting “rails” between the prongs, what we call a basket setting, it’s physics and the math ain’t mathing here and it’s setting you up for failure and (a completely avoidable) stone loss. Fuck these companies that sell this shit, it’s so unethical.
Second, the mounting is not the right size for the stone. This is evident in the prong placement, this mounting is made for a smaller stone, so the prongs are sitting more along the “sides” of your stone than where they should be, at the uppermost curves of the oval. It’s impossible to fix this existing prongs to fit your stone, the prongs would be way too extended to stretch that far.
Third, it’s been covered by others but the band is too thin. Again, physics/engineering. A larger stone needs a thicker band to stand up to everyday wear. Otherwise, when force is applied to the wear points (outer surfaces, prongs usually), the impact is absorbed by the contact point between the prong and the band, and this band is way too small and fragile to withstand the normal everyday wear forces that you will encounter (like a knock against a table or counter, or for the bottom gripping heavy grocery bags or a steering wheel tightly).
All of these things lead to the significant warping of the mounting (and stone loss) that I have seen again and again, simply from small everyday knocks against things that inevitably happen to every ring.
I hope this helps, happy to clarify or answer any questions!
I feel like they took a band for a round stone and plopped this oval stone in.
The prongs don’t look mirrored. Like they’re wonky compared to the other side. Hard to tell cause of the sparkle. Beautiful ring though
The prongs are different color than the band and look crooked.. also the stone looks a bit bigger than the one in the one in the first photo
Am I the only one proud of OP for not having the prior knowledge to articulate why this ring isn’t perfect but noticing and seeking more knowledge for their future fiancée? Love that for yall. Good luck!!
Its beautiful but the prongs seem off
It might be the setting. It just doesn’t look like it will stand the test of time with just 4 prongs. Go to a jewelers and see what 2 minds come up with. Take this ring out of your mind just for a second. Think about your future wife. Think of her taste. Is she bold, a little more understated? Then think of the ring you think fits her personality and style. Then look at your current ring and how does it differ from what you picture? I personally really like the ring, sorry have to say that as im already married and love my ring first lol. I’d say the band is a bit thin to place diamonds that can be seen properly. But if your concerned propose like you wish and say anything you want changed or added we can do that no problem. It will also give you direction on any future jewelry pieces.
I think the overall cut of the diamond. The table looks too large to me.
Hi there! So my husband also felt this way when he made my ring. He added pave diamonds to the band and loved how it turned out, but to be honest I think a plain band is great so you can have an eternity wedding band with diamonds all around! Totally your preference and I’m sure she will love it no matter what! But the wedding band pairing with it I think sometimes can get forgotten about 🙂
I think the overall shape of the diamond. Personally don’t care for that shape with such a large table.
It looks like this diamond was dropped into a pre-fabricated mount not necessarily made for the diamond. It doesn’t fit in the basket. And in turn, that’s what’s making the prongs look “off” as well.
I think the prongs are too thick and also may be too close to the center. I think if they were made a littler smaller/thinner and placed more like 11 o’clock and 1 o’clock at the top, and 5 o’clock 7 o’clock at the bottom, it may look more balanced. To me these prongs almost look like they were meant for a cushion. Also the top right looks crooked
Band is too thin. I don’t like the prongs either. Not sure what’s bad about them but I don’t like. And I’ve got an oval solitaire myself. But the band looks a little too thin for the size of the stone.
The prongs are way too chunky! I’d have them redone
It looks crooked to me
Personally, I think the ring looks more complete when its a matching colour of gold. I’m not a fan of the white gold prongs & gold band. Its totally personal preference, but I wonder if thats whats throwing you off as well. It looks more “complete” and cohesive when its all the same colour of gold. Unless thats something she said she wanted.
And the prongs/basket does look wonky as well.
I caution you to please present the ring during the return window! If she feels the same and you are not proposing until next year, you will be stuck with the ring and she will feel guilty if she doesn’t like it as much as she thought she would. I always thought I wanted a round brilliant diamond until we went ring shopping where we both fell in love with an emerald-cut.
I think the setting needs more stability . Other than that…… I just imagine one bang and something will go amiss. Get a stronger setting in my mind
it looks like the prongs are just wonky enough to notice. What mm is the band? It does look thin.
My eye perceives the stone as rounded/curvy and the prongs as rectangular/boxy. Because of the top to bottom length of the stone, the boxy-curvy combo just doesn’t make my eye happy.
To me it looks like the setting and prongs were not custom made for your stone. The prongs look like they were made for more of a round or square shape than an elongated shape. They’re also quite chunky? Like they seem to protrude too much from the stone.
When I first saw your photo, I immediately thought “that’s a nice oval sitting in a stone holder.” Your instincts are correct. It feels wrong because of prong size and prong placement. The prongs look a little too large and the placement is almost too uniform in that it looks like a stone holder that jewelers use to temporarily hold stones. Your solitaire setting would have more visual fluidity if the prongs were smaller, meaning less overhang on the table of the stone, and if all four prongs were placed bit more towards the north and south vertical of your oval, and then each prong angled in. Here’s a photo that’s similar to your ring, also in yellow gold, that describes what I’m talking about in terms of prong size and placement. It looks a little more balanced to the eye.
https://preview.redd.it/cxypqvntjqsf1.jpeg?width=1291&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4214e14edd0cb438c287ee0aef08e569a973ad1
4 prongs on that big of a stone always feels off to me, 6 prongs look better and are safer! Just my opinion – it’s a beautiful ring regardless!
The diamond doesn’t look centered. Look at the first photo you posted. Imagine if you drew a connecting line across the diamond from where the band is on each side. See how that line is not in the middle of the stone? The prongs almost look like they weren’t originally intended for that shape of stone but I’m not sure, I’d have to see in person.
I think it’s just poor quality construction. If I were you I would return this ring and look at rings in your area locally in shops. I think this general style of ring is a good choice though.
First of all, it’s beautiful and I’m excited for you that she’s not expecting it! However, I agree with others about the prong issue. But also I feel as though the stone would be much safer if the band was a minimum of 2 mm. 2 mm will still give the same look, but it will be much more secure and sturdy! Congratulations in advance! ✨
Tbh I think it’s a little crooked
It’s the prongs. Maybe just not the right style for the shape of stone.
Prong placement. It looks easy to lose the stone. An addizionali prongs north and south would be more secure and Balance it out.
I think its the prongs.
I would return it. The prongs are crooked.
The prongs are positioned strangely and are very thick. Especially in comparison to the band that is very thin. I’d be worried about the head bending on this as the band does not seem thick enough to support the stone and basket.
The prongs look HUGE and the band looks too small for the diamond, giving it an unbalanced look. I’d return and go for a different setting. Looks like a beautiful stone though!
Well if this is what she said she wanted then great. If it feels like it’s missing something what about getting a bezel around the sides, so the stone is fully surrounded by gold? A slightly thicker band or maybe a bit more of a taper between the band and the stone might make it feel more balanced
I have a similar ring with diamonds on the side. I absolutely love it, idk if comparing the two can make you see what you feel is missing?
https://preview.redd.it/khm3yewvgqsf1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6f3ada0ec026c109da7bd4d0c6dcf33e3822ca19
The prongs and the band are different colors, it looks like. Different finishes maybe? The prongs are QUITE chunky.
I think the band is too small for the diamond and the prongs are too close to the middle of the diamond. Get these issues addressed and it will be perfect, especially given this is the ring she wants!
I think it’s the prongs. I would maybe go for thinner double-talon style prongs.
Or it’s the shank in some angles making the band look bent. Also, I agree with the prong statement.
I think its really beautiful! You may be overthinking it. If its what she would’ve wanted then dont sweat it, she probably is looking forward to this exact setting, no need to change it.
One of the prongs seems crooked, maybe it’s that.
This is a very popular style though; I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the style. And she’ll eventually stack it with a wedding band, which will add “more”.
It’s hard to tell, but it looks to me from the pictures like the prongs and basket are at different angles…?
How wide is the band?