“Am I Just Gonna Have to Get Used to This? Let’s Talk Engagement Rings!”
Engagement rings have transcended mere jewelry; they’ve become symbols of love, commitment, and personal style. Whether you’ve recently gotten engaged or are just dreaming about what your future ring might look like, it’s a topic that brings excitement, curiosity, and—let’s face it—a little bit of stress.
The Emotional Journey
When you first think about engagement rings, the feelings are often mixed. There’s the initial thrill of the proposal and picking out the perfect ring, but sometimes, there comes a moment of doubt. “Am I just gonna have to get used to this?” Can you connect with those feelings? Maybe you love your ring’s design but have questions about its stone or setting. Or perhaps you’re on the fence about whether it truly represents you or your relationship.
Let’s dive deeper into this!
1. The Power of the Story
Every ring has a story! Whether it’s a family heirloom or a custom piece made from scratch, the story behind your ring adds depth to its meaning. Share your journey with us! Did you feel an instant connection with your ring, or did it require some adjustment?
2. Cut, Color, Clarity, Carat: What’s Your Priority?
For those still in the ring shopping phase, knowing the 4 C’s (cut, color, clarity, carat) is crucial. Did you prioritize one over the others? Maybe you opted for a large carat size but compromised on clarity. How do you feel about that choice now? This is a great opportunity to chat about preferences and discoveries.
3. Styling: Classic vs. Unique
Engagement rings come in a dizzying array of styles—classic solitaires, intricate vintage designs, or modern geometric shapes. Do you wear your ring every day with confidence, or do you still feel the weight of your decision? Perhaps your style has evolved since getting engaged, and you’ve found yourself drawn to different aesthetics.
4. Slice of Reality: Maintenance and Longevity
Let’s not forget the practical side. All rings need a little TLC, whether it’s regular cleaning or setting maintenance. Did anyone experience unexpected challenges with their ring? It’s important to talk about the realities of ownership alongside the romance.
5. Community Wisdom: Learning Together
This community is here to support one another on our engagement ring journeys. If you’re feeling uncertain about your purchase, or if you simply want to celebrate with others, this is the space to do so! Share your photos, your quirks, and your favorite engagement ring anecdotes. Let’s help each other embrace our choices—whatever they may be.
Final Thoughts
So, are you grappling with whether you’ll just “get used to” your engagement ring? Engaging in open discussions can help reassure and inspire. Together, we can explore the highs and lows of selecting and wearing one of the most significant pieces of jewelry in our lives.
Let’s hear your stories! What does your engagement ring mean to you? How long did it take for you to fall in love with it? Drop your photos, your thoughts, and let’s keep this conversation going!
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My ring is very similar to yours, I have double prongs and it has a gallery rail, it has not budged!
I have a high 4 prong setting on my engagement ring and I have had to have it repaired at least 5 times in the last 7 years.
The stone is loose AGAIN so I finally bit the bullet and I’m having the stone reset into a similar setting with a basket. It will be a lower profile and more secure.
Your ring is gorgeous!! I love my original ring too. But I want to *wear* it but instead it spends so much time in the box bc it’s always wobbly.
How beautiful 🙂 I picked out my ring, 14k gold with a giant center stone like yours and a thin band. I had no idea gold was fragile and I would have to be super careful to not bang it on things and actually treat it like a delicate piece of jewelry.
However, my family jeweler is an angel and talked me off my ledge. Yes it will need to be tightened periodically, yes I will need to be careful, yes I 100% needed an insurance policy in just in case… I now have zero anxiety about my ring because of the insurance policy. 100% coverage for loss or theft, any damage is covered. $54/yr highly recommend for your own sanity
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Just came here to say the ring is GORGEOUS! I hope you can find a solution to the issue you’re having but GIRL- enjoy that beautiful ring
Awwwww I love this for you Sis!
Protect those edges of that gorgeous stone! You don’t wanna chip it
Make sure you insure your ring. That way it’s covered.
Also why I wanted my ring from Kessler’s. They have free life time cleanings and servicing. Replace any lost diamonds for the same kind you had including center stone. The only thing they don’t cover is a lost/stolen ring. That’s what jewelry insurance is for. Usually can easily add a policy wherever you have renters/home owners, sometimes car depending on the company.
Do you have a pic of the side profile?
i had compass prongs on my cushion and had to have it reset because it kept shifting as well. I was so stressed all the time and now i have danty double prongs on the corners. Sometimes i miss the look of the compass prongs, but i do love my new setting and the comfort it brings me knowing it’s secure
There are jewelers out there who offer a lifetime warranty on these things. My ring has had stones replaced, been resized, cleaned, polished, etc. and I have never paid a penny since my husband got it for me.
It shouldnt be doing this. If you get a new setting, dont use the same jeweler. The fact that it feels loose so soon and that they were willing to make the band so thin is a red flag. Obv compass prongs are not ideal for any stone but shouldnt be loose
You have gorgeous hands!!
The setting is just not a great choice for the stone. It’s extremely dainty, most advise against a ring that thin, especially with a stone do this size. Plus there’s no corner prongs, so you’ll continue to have this issue. The setting overall isn’t secure. I’d have them rework it or get a new setting, maybe from another jeweler considering this one thought this was acceptable..
I can’t tell in the picture if your prongs are in white gold. If they’re not – in my opinion – I would change to white gold prongs and move them to each corner. This way the diamond will show better and not have to compete with more prongs also blending better.
Compass prongs 100% allow a stone to become wiggly. Ur best bet will probably be to add some discreet white gold or platinum prongs to the corners so they blend in w the stone and the yellow prongs can still POP and look compass set. The exposed corners will keep getting bumped in things and it’ll get loose no matter how many times u tighten it
I have no answer to your question. I just have to tell you that your ring is absolutely GORGEOUS and looks amazing on you!
If there is no rail between the prongs it will always loosen up.
I’m just here to say that your ring is gorgeous!
4 prongs are more prone to being loose especially with exposed corners, but you may have a jeweler look at how the seats are cut and make sure the diamond is sitting properly in those seats.
You could temporarily get an almost exactly similar version to wear some of the time to reduce wear and tear on the original. Cushion Cut Diamond Clow Prong Set Engagement Ring
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I’m kind of surprised. I have a very high set oval solitaire on 4 prongs with a hidden halo as well and I’ve worn it for 2 years now and never had a problem. I wear it every single day and was working a physical laborious job for most of that time. It never has felt loosened at all. Maybe get a 2nd opinion from a different jeweler and see if they can provide a longer lasting solution.
Having your diamond tightened once after getting your ring isn’t common but also not something I’d worry about. I’ve worked in a custom jewellery store for 20 years and it happens sometime just with a new ring especially a high setting you might have hit it without realizing. My worry would be that the setting and ring look like they might be a bit delicate for your stone. I’d talk to your jeweller about if the stone comes loose again should you look at having the ring remade. Keeping the same design but making adjustments to suit your lifestyle. Also I’d look at jewellery insurance just in case. Some plans will cover repairs as well as loss.
Take the ring to a jeweler and ask them to tighten the prongs and add two more to make it more secure. Very common request.
I have a similar ring and never had to tighten it and had zero issues.
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Admittedly I don’t know how this stuff works, but shouldn’t the jewellers be trying to find a solution to this? It sounds like they sold you a faulty product – so at the very least would you get your money back OR a different design as an exchange?
If it’s wobbly after only a few months I’d be so paranoid about it all the time. Sounds like the setting is too frail for a stone of that size.
I’d take it to another jeweller and ask their opinion. It’s unfortunately not uncommon for some jewellers to just give a customer what they’re asking for without explaining the realities of it. A second opinion might clear up the problem for you.
The ring is beautiful! Congratulations!
I’d suggest taking it somewhere to get it cleaned and checked at least once every 6 months. That’s the standard reccommendation for daily wear jewelry at the store where I work, but you might want to do it a little more often—to me it kind of looks like the setting is too dainty for the size of the stone, so it’s possible that you could continue to have problems.
No I don’t think it’s normal to have a ring tightened. You should have a secure ring from the start.
What about adding extra prongs to the corners?